How To Take A Child’s Dummy
Most of us know the following scenario well. Our weeping child will run up to us, because they have just experienced some kind of disastrous apocalypse. For example, if their sibling tore down their tower of cubes. We patiently explain that this is really not the end of the world, and we can build a new tower together and put a dummy into the baby's mouth to calm down ... but how long can this easy solution go on for?
When Is The Right Time To Take A Dummy From A Child?
If your baby has been using a dummy for some time and you think they may be getting too old for it, the first thing is to be patient. Choose the right time - it's not a good idea to try to pick up a baby's dummy at a time when they‘re undergoing some change. For example, if you move house, have a babysitter for the first time, or if you start work. In short, if a stressful event occurs in their life, the dummy will help them calm down, and it is, therefore, undesirable to expose them to further stress by trying to take it from them.
On the other hand, some experts say that the baby should have a dummy beyond two years old. This is because any longer and the risk of crooked teeth and an overbite increases rapidly. If a child is four years old, dental deformities may already affect other teeth and may be permanent. Some speech therapists suggest babies shouldn’t have a dummy after their first birthday because the dummy can have a negative effect on speech development.
Once you decide to say goodbye to a dummy, it is more important than ever for your whole family to pull together. Make sure you tell anyone that might be involved with your baby your intention to avoid interference. The sleepless nights will be pointless if, after three days of suffering, for example, their grandmother offers the child a dummy again. The same goes for a situation where you start quitting, but then one of you starts to lose your temper and starts gambling with the idea of not putting it off for a while. It is important to realize that if you take a step back, subsequent attempts will be longer and more difficult, as the child will try to repeat their "victory" again.
All children are especially receptive to these situations, and even if you think they don't know yet, they quickly learn what makes us change our minds. Experts, therefore, recommend hugging these children as much as possible during these critical days, singing to them and soothing them.. In short, reduce the level of stress as much as possible and thus minimize the risk of finding a replacement object for sedation - such as a thumb - instead of a dummy.
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How To Take A Dummy From A Child?
Opinions on whether to take a dummy from the child at one time or to proceed slowly varies widely, and there is still no consensus. Some parents promote a one-time "clean-cut" in which the dummy is suddenly picked up and then not returned, but others consider this too drastic. These people suggest initially taking the baby's dummy for a day and to start to take it for the night after a few weeks.
My son cried, for a few minutes, as he was angry that we didn't want to give him what he wanted and what he was used to. After a while, he understood that we meant it so the next night he just whimpered and the next few days he was calm. If you have imagination and time, you can accompany the loss of the dummy with an engaging story that your baby will understand. It doesn’t have to be incredibly imaginative.. A dummy fairy could come for it, you could give it to a baby in your area or the dummy could fly south with the migrating birds. There really are no limits to the imagination. However, it is necessary to realise that a dummy is a very important part of a child's life, and if they know what has happened to it (where it is and that it’s okay), the "departure" may be easier.
Another method of stopping your child’s use of a dummy is to make it taste bad. There are countless ways to ‘disgust‘ a baby's pacifier on the internet and among mothers. Some people recommend soaking the baby's dummy in vinegar or coating it with lemon juice to discourage use. Others have tried to pretend that the dummy is lost.Other recommendations concern stressful situations in which a baby would normally need a dummy. For example, to relieve tension, a child may drink milk through a straw (using dummy bottles isn‘t suitable to strengthen the suction reflex).In any case, keep in mind that children usually need about seven days to get used to this change in their lives. During that time it is essential to persevere. Sooner or later, every baby gets used to functioning without a dummy.
If you are inventive and don't mind taking the task of planning a dummy departure, you can try a trick that my friend tried. She inflated several balloons with helium and the whole family went together to a nearby hill, where they said goodbye to the dummy, tied it to a bundle of balloons and let it fly.
What Is A Dummy Tree?
Some mothers create a dummy tree. This is a tree, in a park for example, where you bring your dummies and then you and your little one can say goodbye to the dummy and hang it with the others. The children tolerate it because their dummy is not alone, but with other dummy friends. The most famous of these trees is probably the one in Copenhagen, Denmark (Frederiksberg Gardens), but you can also find them in Brooklyn, Seoul, Seattle, Stavanger in Norway, Hamburg and many other places in the world. In some cities, it‘s a big event, and in addition to dummies, baby bottles are sometimes hung on the tree. There is also often a letter, a wish with which the child says goodbye to their beloved dummy.